HOW OFTEN HAVE YOU HEARD OR SAID THIS? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 143

When you ask someone to do something how often is the response, "I'll try."  When you invite a friend to join you for a drink or dinner or an event, how often is the response, "I'll try."  When someone asks you to do something or extends an invitation to you, how often is your response, "I'll try."  We seem to be living in a world full of commitment-phobics who cannot make a plan on Monday for the following Saturday, and so they say, "I'll try."  We are surrounded by individuals who are reluctant to commit to doing something or following up on something, and so they say, "I'll try."  Are they waiting for a better invitation, or are they unwilling to do what is asked of them but are afraid to say that and so they say, "I'll try."

If you want to be successful and have strong relationships, then:

DON'T TRY - DO!!!

HOW OFTEN DO YOU SAY IT? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 134

When my grandson was a toddler we all thought it was so cute when he would say, "I can't do it, Shuzie."  He was speaking to his Aunt Susie, and she would assure him that he could do whatever it was he felt he could not do.  If he needed help she would give it to him.  More importantly, she would encourage him to try to do things himself.

If you have children or grandchildren, listen to how often they may say, "I can't."  Then listen to all the adults around you and how often they too may say, "I can't."  Many times when adults are saying, "I can't" they really mean "I won't."  How often are we ourselves guilty of doing that?  When we receive an invitation for something we don't really want to do, we say, "I'm sorry but I can't................."  When we have an argument with our spouse or significant other about something which needs to change (and which we do not want to change) we say, "I can't..................."   When we need to exercise or lose weight, how many times do we say, "I can't............" when in reality we really won't do what is necessary to discipline ourselves to do it.  On the other hand, if your boss gives you an assignment deadline I doubt you say, "I can't............."

In truth, there are many things we do not want to do, but there are few things which we can't do.  So if you hear yourself saying, "I can't.........." too often, then it is time to

MAKE CAN'T = CAN

DO YOU THINK YOU CAN OR THINK YOU CAN'T? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 85

Sometimes people do not realize the power we have over ourselves to do things, to try new things, to meet our goals, to find love, and to be successful.  Positive thinking is one of the strongest forces we have in our personal arsenals on a daily basis.  Likewise negative thinking is one of the most destructive habits which .at times seems more powerful than positive thinking.  Don't be fooled by that because positive thinking is of more help and value to you.  You have to remind yourself to use it daily.  If you start having negative thoughts stop yourself immediately and think of the opposite positive thoughts and be aware of what the words are.  You will overcome the negative thoughts.

If other people have negative thoughts or words about you, just remember that your positive thoughts about yourself are more important than what anyone else thinks or says.  Let their negativity roll off of you as you combat it with your own positive thinking.

It may not come naturally to you at first if you tend to be a pessimistic person, but if you sincerely try you will find in time that you have helped yourself tremendously.  You will see that what you have thought to be impossible for you has become possible.

Today's message is:

IT IS POSSIBLE!