DO YOU THINK OF GIVING UP? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 150

Are you having thoughts of giving up whether it be on a relationship, a business idea, a job, or even life?  I know there can be many things which can cause a person to feel great despair, to feel hopeless, and to just run out of the energy to keep trying or keep going.  If you are feeling that way, I first will say I am so sorry that you do.  Then I will say no matter what do not give up.  

Remember that changing your mind is not giving up.  If you decide that someone is really not the person for you, or if you are in an abusive relationship then it is smart to get out of the relationship and distance yourself from that person.  If you have an idea for a business but in doing your research you find that it may not be as profitable as you would need it to be, then deciding not to pursue it is a smart decision.  If you are in a job that makes you miserable each day or has no future growth, then perhaps you do need to keep your ears open to hear about other companies or opportunities.  However, in this economy when so many are out of work it is not smart to just quit your job without another one to go to.  As long as you are employed try to do your best each day, try to be honest and determine if you may be part of the problem and what you can do to make the situation better.  Then keep job searching.  

If you are in a period of grieving for the loss of a loved one or the end of a relationship, allow yourself a time to grieve and realize that is part of the process of life.  If you are gay and have not yet come out, or if you have a substance abuse problem, realize what you can do and should do for your own well being.  These are all serious and painful situations, and there are professionals who can help you.  Grief counselors, therapists, rehabs, AA, clergy, parents, grandparents, and friends who can and will help you through these dark times.

One of the things we learn as we grow older is that everything changes if you wait long enough.  Remember that 

IT GETS BETTER!

WHERE ARE YOU? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 135

Do you ever have times when you wish you could just be somewhere else?  Anywhere else?  I think we all experience feelings like that at some point in our lives.  There can be any number of reasons why we may wish to be elsewhere.  Most of us don't act on that wish, but there are some who do.

I remember when I was growing up hearing my parents talk about the son of their friends.  He went out to get a newspaper and never came back.  For over 20 years they never knew what had happened to him or if he was still alive.  Then one day out of the blue he came back home.  I always wondered how they really felt when he appeared after so many years.  Were they thrilled to see him and have him back safe and sound? Were they angry for the worry and grief they felt all those years?

For people who are in abusive relationships or marriages, they have every right to leave and should get themselves out of harm's way.  For others who are safe but just bored or tired of responsibility they should find the solution to their problems and live up to their responsibilities.

My opinion is that strong people stay where they need to be, and weak people leave with no thought of the sorrow, anxiety, and never-ending sense of loss they cause people who love them.  When I hear children speak of fathers (or mothers) who abandoned them, it is heart-wrenching because some of these children think they were not loved.  Even sadder are the ones who believed they were loved and cannot understand how a parent could leave them without a word, not provide support for them, and never see them again.  I think that is reprehensible in every sense of the word.

No matter what the day brings, no matter what the problems you may face, tell yourself

I NEED TO BE HERE!