Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts
Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts

Sunday, September 29, 2013

HOW OFTEN DO YOU DO THIS? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 123

Living a thankful life can make each day joyful, each burden lighter, each relationship better, and relieve the stress that plagues so many of us these days. With all the trouble in the world today it is too easy to think only of what is wrong in our lives.  I know it is easy to be bogged down with unhappy thoughts, angry reactions, bitter feelings, and despair over things that are not as we want them to be.  In spite of these things, however, there is one thing each of us can do to help ourselves.

Being thankful is not just for religious people, but it is for all people.  I truly believe that every person can find things each day for which to be thankful.  Beauty, music, art, nature, and kindness are available to all of us at no cost so even the poorest of the poor can enjoy them.  Family, friends, work, health, opportunities, and so many other things to be thankful for are truly blessings.

Today's message is:

COUNT BLESSINGS!


Friday, September 13, 2013

ARE YOU CONCERNED ABOUT SOMETHING TODAY? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 107

Everyone in the world has something to be concerned about sometime, and some of us are worriers which can be very stressful and not good for us.  My mother elevated worrying to an art.  If she did not have something to worry about, she worried about that.  My daughter worries almost as much as my mother did. I can worry about some things but not for very long because I realized long ago that worrying does not change a thing.  It does not resolve a problem, it does not make someone well, it does not make anything better, and it is a terrible time waster and can ultimately be hazardous to your health.

Whatever is going to happen is going to happen, and sometimes the outcome will be not what we hope it will be.  Be that as it may, most of what we worry about never really comes to pass.  So when you find you are too occupied with concern, just tell yourself:

IT'S OKAY, REALLY!


Monday, July 1, 2013

ARE YOU A CONTROLLING PERSON? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 43

A number of years ago I had to face the facts that not only was I a co-dependent person but also turning into a control freak.  I read somewhere that the more out of control our lives become the more we try to control everyone and everything around us.  Over time I learned that the only person you can change is yourself and that, in truth, there is very little one can control in life.  Life is going to happen to us and the people we love no matter what.

I have had a wonderful friend for 52+ years who has now been sober 28 years.  He finally had to decide to change himself for himself and not for anyone else, and he was very successful after a few false starts.  He taught me this prayer which they say in all meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Even if you are not a believer , this is great advice filled with words to live by.  Thinking this way has helped me to go through many, many things and relieved me of so much stress and anxiety.  

So if there are things or relationships in your life that you want to change and you can, then go for it.  However, if there are things or relationships you cannot change then follow today's message which is:

LET IT BE!






Tuesday, June 11, 2013

ARE YOU STRESSED? CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 23

Life seems to be particularly filled with stress these days.  No matter your age, occupation, health, family, or income we are all susceptible to stress.  Stress is very damaging to  health and well being so it is crucial that you take care of yourself and find ways to relieve your stress.  Exercise, hobbies, music, volunteering, resting, reading and meditating are all known to be stress relievers.  Find what works for you.

Today's message is

Defeat Stress







Monday, June 3, 2013

DOES RUSHING TAKE YOU ANYWHERE? - CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH WORDS - DAY 15

It seemed at times as if I spent my entire working life rushing from one place to another, from one project to another, from one meeting to another, and from one deadline to another.  Then because I was always a working mother I would rush home just to rush from one household task to another as well as chauffeuring the children from one place to another.  Of course, all of this was even before we knew technology would create multi-tasking which has only made people more frantic and less in control of their time.

At some point I finally came to my senses and realized that not only was I stressing myself out on a daily basis, but I was really not accomplishing as much as I thought.  I realized that I was letting too many others control my time because I just refused to say, "No."  When you come to the conclusion that you want to live your life at a sane pace most of the time, you will be able to do it with a few key steps.

1)  Use a daily planner and list everything you are to do on any given day including both business and personal tasks.  When the day is getting too full, start scheduling for the next available day, and learn to say"No" when there just is not enough time on any given day to do what is being asked of you.

2)  Do not schedule every minute of every day.  Leave some open periods of time for the unexpected things which invariably occur.  If you find nothing crops up then use those open periods to work ahead on projects or deadlines.

3)  Allow enough time to get to where you need to be and at the time you need to be there based on distance, time of day, and mode of transportation.

4)  When scheduling appointments ask others how much of your time they will need.  Ask yourself how much of their time you will need, and then keep the appointments on schedule.

5)  Break down all projects into manageable tasks so the work can be spread out over days and schedule the tasks in your planner.

6)  If you are conducting the meeting be sure you have a time frame and an agenda and stick to them.  Do not allow attendees or yourself to go off on tangents.  Respect other people's time as well as your own.

7)  Set realistic deadlines for yourself.  If others are setting deadlines for you, be realistic about what it will take for you to meet their deadline.

8)  Stop trying to do 3, 4, 5 or 6 things at a time.  Focusing on one thing at a time will ensure completion of more things with higher quality workmanship.

9)  In addition to getting even the youngest family member to help with household tasks, limit the number of  extra-curricular activities in which each child is allowed to participate and make sure the days/times do not conflict.

10) Schedule time for yourself in the planner...........for taking a walk, going to the gym, getting a haircut, spending time with children or friends, taking a hot bath, or reading a book.  If you don't schedule it you most likely will not have time for it.

There will, of course, be days when even the best-laid plans will get off course.   That will happen less often than you think if you remember today's message:

Take your time!


Schedule your time.



TAKE YOUR TIME!

SOMETIMES JUST SAY, "NO."








Friday, December 16, 2011

It Is Friday, Time Is Flying, But Enjoy The Anticipation

Today is the 16th. Hanukkuh begins on the 21st. Christmas Eve is on the 24th. New Year's Eve is on the 31st. Now I realize all of you know these dates .......so why am I writing them in this post, you ask? If you are like I am, then your to-do lists are overly ambitious and guaranteed to cause stress and anxiety as the days on the calendar go by and the hours on the clock tick louder and louder. When this happens I seem to try to kick everything into high gear and just get it all done (must have been all those years in retailing that did this to me). Well, not this year.......I have decided that I want to enjoy the anticipation of the holidays, the actual preparations for them, the shopping and baking and wrapping and decorating, the parties and music........I will not just rush to get it all done this year. Life is so fragile that we never know what can happen between these holidays and those of 2012. Slow down, take some deep breaths, kiss your children and grandchildren, turn off the lights and sit in front of your Christmas tree or your Menorah and remember what the holidays are actually about and why we acknowledge and celebrate them. Enjoy peace, tranquility, togetherness and happy memories. That is what I am going to do!!!